There’s a silent pressure that creeps into family holidays — the kind no one warns you about. You’ve saved, planned, packed. You’ve looked forward to this for months. And yet, once you arrive, you find yourself asking:
“Why am I still tired?”
“Why are the kids bickering?”
“Why doesn’t this feel as magical as I imagined?”
The truth is, many parents feel this way — but rarely say it out loud. The expectation of the “perfect family holiday” can become a weight rather than a joy.
But here’s what I’ve come to learn: You don’t have to earn your holiday joy through flawless logistics, endless patience, or picture-perfect moments.
Sometimes, if not always…being present is enough.
Parenting in the Age of Performance
Social media has made it harder to rest. Studies have shown that platforms like Instagram can heighten stress and reduce satisfaction, especially when we compare our “behind-the-scenes” to someone else’s “highlight reel” (Fardouly et al., 2015).
We scroll through images of happy families, colour-coordinated beachwear, gourmet picnics on cliffs — and wonder why our own day feels like survival mode: sunscreen battles, snack negotiations, and sandy shoes. But here’s the truth: real holidays with real children (and real partners) are messy, loud, and often unfiltered. And that’s okay.
Solomos, and the Freedom to Choose Peace at all times.
While walking barefoot on a beach this week, I found myself thinking about the Greek poet Dionysios Solomos, and his haunting work “Ελεύθεροι Πολιορκημένοι” (The Free Besieged). Written during the siege of Missolonghi, it tells the story of people surrounded by war and hunger, yet spiritually free. They chose to maintain their dignity, even when the world around them fell apart.
As parents, we are not under siege — not truly. But we do face the siege of expectations. And we, too, have a choice.
We can choose presence over perfection.
We can choose to sit in the sand, even if we forgot the beach towels.
We can laugh at the spilled ice cream and hug the child who melted down at dinner.
We can find freedom in the imperfect now.
How to Let Go and Be Here
I hear you…all well said but how? Here are a few reminders that help me — and might help you too:
✔️ Lower the bar. A good day doesn’t mean everything went smoothly. A good day means you were there.
✔️ Catch small moments. The sleepy smile, the giggle, the way their hand finds yours — that’s the gold.
✔️ Protect your peace. Not every outing needs to be epic. Rest is productive.
✔️ Give yourself permission to be tired. Parents need recovery time too.
✔️ Celebrate the ordinary. Joy often hides in simple things: a shared meal, a skipped stone, a sunset together.
Final Thought:
The most powerful lesson I’ve learned as a parent on holiday? My kids don’t need perfect. They need me. Not “holiday-planner me.” Not “Instagram-worthy me.” Just me, eyes open, heart soft, in the moment.
And that, as Solomos reminds us, is a kind of freedom worth choosing.
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Click here to buy online and download the book “Dare to Dream Big”Ioanna Nixon, Consultant Oncologist, executive Coach, and author.
Dr Ioanna Nixon is a senior oncologist in Glasgow, UK. She specialises in uro-oncology, namely prostate, bladder and kidney cancer. Her research focuses on novel cancer therapies, quality of life and clinical innovations. She has held a number of national and international leadership roles, as Clinical Director Oncology, NHS Greater Glasgow and Clyde, led the Scottish Sarcoma Network since 2015 till early 2022, and is the Cancer Innovation Lead for the West of Scotland. She is an honorary clinical senior lecturer at Glasgow University and an academic at Strathclyde Business School, researching on health policy and leadership. She is also an executive coach, specialising on resilience, leadership, and wellness. She is the founder of the Empower Clinic The Empower Clinic – Dr Ioanna Nixon and the co-host of the podcast “Open Doors with Drs Ioanna and Vilma”, focusing on professional wellbeing.
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